Archive for February, 2013


Over the past couple of days, Julie and I have come to the realization that we will, in most likelihood, need to raise a hair over $27,000 by the middle of summer. On one hand, that looks impossible. And that starts to get me angry. I mean, we want to take a child out of a social welfare program and give him a good home. Part of me says that the other government should pay me to take him into our home. The cost looks too big, to enormous for us to accomplish.

On top of that, Julie said that with the recent changes in South Korean laws, the referral process is moving slowly. Families that started the process in December are just now hearing back that they are approved. That frustrates me. In my perfect world, this is a win / win: child needs a family and family wants a child. No fuss, no muss. Why does it have to be so difficult?

Yet, as I read Scripture, I see a God who is passionate about the widow and the orphan. I see a God who does the impossible without another thought. And I know that our God will provide for us through friends, family and complete strangers to give us the money. What God is doing is forcing us to completely trust Him. God is forcing us to our knees to see our need for Him to work in a big fashion in this case.

John Piper was asked once why we ask people to pray for something big. His answer surprised me. In essence, he said that the reason we ask people to pray is so that when God moves, there will be more people to sing His praises. So, I ask you to help us pray for the enormity of this in front of us. In particular, please pray:

  • That we would raise the $27,000. The good news is that we have a hair over $3,000 already so we are over 10% towards this goal!
  • That our background checks would come back soon to allow our home study have formal and final approval.
  • That the remaining approvals from the various governments would go quickly and we might be able to seek a formal referral soon.
  • That we would be able to travel to pick up our son before Christmas of this year.

This is, admittedly, a pretty aggressive schedule. But, as we trust God for the outcome, we know that there will be much rejoicing when He answers these prayers.

As always, if you want to help us financially, click on the link above, make a donation, buy some coffee or do some shopping at Amazon through the links on the left.


Ok – we’ll make it super easy!

I know we’ve offered several options to help us fund this adoption. Here is one last way to help, if you are so inclined. You can just give! Now, in full disclosure, the various websites get a cut (we get approximately 92% of every dollar you give) and it isn’t tax deductible, but you do get the Cackler’s eternal gratitude and help bring an orphan special needs boy to his forever family. What more can you ask for?

If you would like to give, just click on the link to the right. We will have a full update on the fundraising next Saturday. Thanks again for your prayers and support!

When we adopt—and when we encourage a culture of adoption in our churches and communities—we’re picturing something that’s true about our God. We, like Jesus, see what our Father is doing and do likewise (John 5:19). And what our Father is doing, it turns out, is fighting for orphans, making them sons and daughters.

Moore, R. (2009). Adopted for life (Kindle ed. Loc. 1101). Wheaton: Crossway Books. Retrieved from


Do you drink coffee?


JustLoveCoffee-Logo-TagIf you do, here is a great way to help support our adoption! Just Love Coffee Roasters is a company with adoption as a core value. As the owner’s explain: “When Just Love Coffee Founder Rob Webb and his wife, Emily, were going through the adoption process, they found that many adopting families were frustrated by the lack of a good fundraising model. The Just Love Coffee Roasters fundraising program was born as a result. Our program is unique in that we don’t require you to purchase anything. What you do need to do is tell others about it.”

So that’s what we are doing! Just head over to we will receive a generous portion to go towards our adoption fund! Drink up!

Many people have asked about how they can support us – we have felt your prayers – and already they have opened doors that we thought were closed. Thank you!

I originally had wished that we would not need to fund raise.  I am learning that this may be God’s way of making more people aware of adoption, and giving people who maybe can’t adopt a chance to learn more about the process and be supportive of adoption and life issues even if they are not adopting themselves.  For those that have adopted previously, it is a chance for them to share their story, talk about how God has worked in them through adoption, and for those that have accepted funds in the past, it is a chance for them to pay it forward.

When we look at the large amount of money needed for us to bring our child home it seems overwhelming. It has been a faith building experience to be sure.   One thing I am realizing is that every little bit helps. It’s easy to think that a little bit here or there doesn’t make a difference  – but it adds up.  I had been saving several small checks we have received for various reasons over the past couple of months – and when I added them up – there was $500 there.  Most of these were just various mileage and reimbursement checks that we absorbed into our budget.   It added up. Once our homestudy is complete and in our hands, we will be able to apply for a variety of grants that are available. Many of these grants request or require that we are able to match, or partially match funds that we raise ourselves.

We are lucky enough to have friends and family all over the state, US, and even the World!  How can you creatively help us?  Here are a few ideas.

Sales – of course there is EBay, Craigslist, swap sites, etc. if you are really adventurous, you could do a garage sale.  Collect donations of kids clothes in good shape and take to a consignment store that pays cash.  It’s not exactly sales, but bottle deposits/etc. could fit in here as well. When people you know are cleaning out – offer to sell their stuff as well.

Parties – This could be a home based business party where the proceeds go to support the adoption.  If you want some information from us (if you are out of the area) let me know.  If you are in the area – invite us!  Serve snacks from South Korea 🙂  Or, have a party where people make goodies or crafts to sell in support.

Shopping – We already have the Amazon Affiliate storefront.  We plan on setting up at least one other one in the near future at Just Love Coffee Roasters.  Share these links with others.  If they are going to buy stuff anyway…

Sports – A little competition is always fun. We are promoting the NASCAR $1/point for Daytona – Baseball fans – maybe start a jar for $1/home run, or at work, people pick a team to support and figure out a way to collect a little at a time. (Instead of friendly wagers for lunch, think of supporting something that will last a lot longer.)

Fasting – As we move toward Lent – a lot of people choose to “give something up” for the period of Lent. Maybe you can fast from your morning beverage purchase on your way to work. Give up the afternoon soda or vending machine treat.  Pack your lunch for a week.  You get the idea. Give up a luxury that these children around the world will never know – just for a time. Use the money saved to support adoption.

Ask – sometimes people just need asked — We have jokingly said that we just need 30,000 people to give us a dollar. But really, it’s not that far fetched. If 2o of our friends each asked 20 people to support us with $10 — that’s $4000!  Offer a drawing for a  “prize”  (baked good, gift card, maybe someone you know with a business can offer a gift card/etc.)

We have learned a lot about both adoption and raising funds through this process.  Coming from a non-profit background, fundraising isn’t new to me – but I’m getting a different attitude.  After years of selling Camp Fire Candy I can’t say no to any youth from an organization selling products if they can tell me about it and understand what the money will be used for.  Likewise — we are looking forward to being able to “Pay it Forward” with others who adopt in the future.

Ladies and Gentlemen, start your Fundraising!

Since the boys around here REALLY like NASCAR and the season is about to begin, we thought it might be fun to do a “quick” race themed fundraiser.

We think it would be fun to have people make a “pledge/point” for their favorite driver for the Daytona 500. So for $1/point by the end of the race you would be donating anywhere from $1 – $48 depending on how your driver finishes. All funds raised will be used to make our payments to the agency.

Please also remember, that along with raising funds we are trying to raise awareness for adoption  – Consider sharing with people you work with and coordinate collecting pledges and building excitement for the race and awareness for orphans around the world.  Taking a little time to ask others to participate can make a big difference and exponentially  increase the amount raised to bring a child into a home. Consider a treat or small prize for the person that raises/donates the most in your group. Have fun with it!

Please let us know what you think!  Will you be able to participate?  Can you invite others and collect pledges? Have fun with it! If you have questions or would like more information about where we are in the process, please let one of us know.

Oh, and if you aren’t much of a NASCAR fan, don’t worry, we’re working on some more ideas — (or you can come up with your own!)

Where are we going?

So one of those questions we get asked a lot is “Where are you going for your adoption?”  Well, we can now tell you that we are preparing all of our documentation for…


South Korea!  We are working with our agency in regards to a specific little boy who is pretty close in age to Lucas – however, due to privacy issues cannot share much more publicly than that right now.

As is all too common in International Adoption, South Korea has recently changed some of their processes regarding adoption.  As a result – there is no “standard” timeline right now – and we are learning as we go.   All I can tell you is that right now part of my heart is on the other side of the world with a little boy that I have never met – and only seen one photo of.

Now, it’s time to find some Korean recipes!