Archive for March, 2014

What a week – and we’re still waiting!

I figured I should start off with the news that most everyone is waiting to hear or lack there of. We still wait (mostly patiently) for our court date. We found out this week that the courts are issuing dates into late April and early May this past week. The good news is that we should have a bit more of a lead before having to travel (four to six weeks rather than two to three). The bad news is that we will have an additional few weeks while we wait before we can finally meet our little guy and then finally bring him home.

But you know you had a pretty eventful week when that doesn’t make your top news. This actually began about a week ago when a blog advocating Korean adoption wrote about the courts and a new requirement of additional psychological testing they require for adoptive parents. Obviously, additional requirements were not on our horizon and caused a bit of a panic on our end. A quick note off to the agency and all we could do is wait.

Monday we received a message back from the agency indicating they had heard rumors but nothing was confirmed as of yet. So, we waited a bit more before getting the news we really didn’t want to hear. Our agency relayed that the courts are requiring these additional tests. Julie quickly went to work to find someone to administer these tests and I took a look at the adoption fund to see what this additional cost will do to the budget. Thankfully, God had the funds in the bank already for us, Julie was able to find someone to do the tests, so now all we need to do is wait to make for clearance from our agency before knocking this out.

Yet, as stressful as this is, we understand the reason why the courts are asking for it. Recent events involving a Korean adoptee prompted the courts to review their process. This review led to the new requirements to add another layer to protect other kids in the future. We completely agree that the primary goal is protecting children and making sure they are safe, even if we are saddened that it might delay our adoption. And a huge thanks to Holt International and especially Bethany Christian Services and our adoption team who has walked us through this and put up with our many messages and questions over the past week!

In the midst of all of this, I received a bit of encouragement as well. I am a big pen guy and made it my mission to find a nice pen to sign all the court documents in Korea and then save for our little guy and give to him on his 12th birthday. I did something similar for Lucas on all his birth documents. I was quite particular that the pen come from Korea. I wasn’t sure I would find a pen that was actually made in Korea until a kind soul on the Fountain Pen Network message board offered me a pen from his personal collection as a gift. I was humbled by his generosity and look forward to meeting him and sharing a meal while we are in Seoul.

IMG_20140320_181653_063However, that isn’t even the best part of the week. As we had mentioned in the past, we had hoped to travel in mid to late March so we could celebrate his birthday with him. Well, we didn’t hit that, so we celebrated this past week here by going to the only Korean restaurant here in Des Moines. We had a great time and found a new favorite dish: jiajangmyum. We know that we won’t celebrate every birthday with the little guy with Korean food (we fully anticipate next year his birthday party will probably involve video games and pizza!) but it was a fun treat in an otherwise hectic week. And we added another dish to try when we actually travel to Korea.

Afterwards we stopped at Target to get a couple of things to send to him for his birthday. We felt bad that we missed a present for him on his birthday in hopes that we would be there to give it to him in person, but we hope that he likes the Hot Wheels, Skittles and Captain America t-shirt we sent!

And yet, we’re still not at the most exciting part of the week! Earlier in the week, our case worker mentioned that she had a LARGE file that was sent from Korea that she is downloading but it would take quite awhile. I get to work on Friday and Julie had sent me an email entitled, “I think I’m going to cry.” The agency receive a large update that they are mailing to us with photos and videos, but what grabbed me was a note (translated) from our little guy’s foster mom.

While the note contained some very positive news on his development (he likes to count and Legos!), the most encouraging part is that he not only knows about us, but that he is asking about us and is excited to meet us. His foster mom shares that when he plays with his toys, he says he wants to meet us. When he is eating, he says, “I want to share this food with Luke!” He also says, “dad” when he sees an airplane which his foster mom believes means he wants to get on a plane to come see me (and I suppose all of us, but he mentions me by name so I’m running with the idea that I’m already his favorite!). We’re just so excited that he is looking forward to meeting us!

It’s been a whirlwind week and I realize this is a long blog post. But, even in the bumpiness of the process, we see God working and are grateful for all the blessings of this week. And thank you for joining us along the way. Will you join us in praying over the next several days for:

1) A quick resolution to our testing.

2) A prompt court date.

3) In praising God for how He is preparing us and our little guy for the future.

I leave you with one last picture today. This was Luke’s fortune at the restaurant after his supper the other night. We smiled because this is our prayer for both of our boys and their relationship in the future. 



While we wait…

I have been putting off an update – because I am hoping we will have a court date to share soon.  Trust us – after a flurry of quick phone calls, e-mails and texts to family and employers, we will post. We won’t be able to NOT post! Even though we have definitely reached the point that the chance of meeting Little Guy before his birthday is not possible, we are hopeful that we will meet him within a month. Meanwhile – I will continue to stalk my e-mail inbox on weekday mornings.

This morning while I was looking up scripture on patience, I came across this one:

Colossians 1:9-12

New International Version (NIV)

9 For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God,  being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.

Wow – reminder of our adoption into the family of God – and a reminder to use this time wisely. Whether we are waiting for an adoption call, a job change, a pregnancy, or even spring and warmer weather am I putting my life on hold, or working towards the kingdom?  How am I using this time? Am I encouraging others and bearing fruit?

So while we continue to pray that we are able to share a court date with you soon – Please pray that this time while we wait is also fruitful and that we are using it wisely.



Timing and Grant update

Wanted to post an update for those of you wondering where we are in the process.  In short – we’re still waiting for our court date.  While we are disappointed that our date wasn’t assigned this past week as we were hoping, we understand. Our understanding is that the court process is getting updated a bit – and will mean it will be a shorter wait for families in the future, and we think that is a great thing. So we’ll continue to wait, and trust in God’s timing. (But we are hoping for travel end of March or early April.)

Thank you to those who have contributed to our Brittany’s Hope Matching Grant.  Every bit makes a difference for us, and for others who are adopting special needs kids. Thank you!  We will keep the grant open for one more week as we still have a ways to go. Please click on the Grant text above to make a donation. Also please feel free to ask us if you have any questions.

Thank you for your continued prayer support!  Ours prayers at this point are:

  • That we will receive our court date soon
  • That we are positive ambassadors for adoption
  • That God is glorified throughout the process
  • For Little Guy and his foster family as they prepare for transition and are playing the waiting game as well

Thank you for joining this journey with us.